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So the man of my dreams did something so wonderful this week. I'll tell you about it after I tell you what my husband did. Just kidding. They are both the same person!
So my hubby made this arbor with the bride's dad.
It's still not finished but it will be wrapped in vines and flowers.
This morning I had another surprise. Look at my roses smiling for a picture.
There is alot to do and this weekend will be filled with hopefully crossing out items on my list. I will be taking photos as things happen and post as soon as I can. Please sent positive wishes and thoughts for Oct 11 for a rain free day. That's all I ask. It will be very difficult if it rains. But it's all out of my control. So I post with hope and wish you all peace and joy. Thanks for you comments and following me in my little hideaway.
Only Fifteen days and my oldest will be a husband to the most wonderful and sweet girl I know.
Only 14 days left and we will all be reunited once again. My youngest will be home from Tennessee.
Only 13 days and the Tent will be built.
Today I made my pies and froze them.
I gathered pumpkins.
I baked pumpkin loafs that filled my house of with the sweetest smell of Autumn.
Today was a glorious day. The sun is streaming down as we speak. Temps are close to 80 degrees.
And I made my lists. (Yes Dori I did!) I'm a notorious list maker and my husband hates it. But it's the elementary teacher in me, the type A (maybe type A minus personality not a full type A)
Perhaps it's from watching too much Martha in the early 90's, not totally sure. My friend Catherine and I always joke about how she ruined us because the standards she set were so high we strive for them and sometimes it can be unrealistic. But we still try. Hee hee.
Thinking of doing this by my mailbox towards the front of my long driveway.
So many things to do, so little time. But I have high hopes for the weather, the day and the process in the next few days.
All the silver has been polished. (Never want to see that much silver again.)
Now we wait. Wait for the days to come, for time to tell what that special day will bring. I promise once the tent arrives and we begin I will post every night of the process and results.
Thanks for your comments and well wishes. Keep them coming. xoxo
When I first set eyes on my future home I felt a familiarity as I walked the grounds around the old colonial. (Above is photo after we put in the portico, before the extended porch)
There was something there that beckoned me, telling me that the house was meant for us and we were meant for it.
My husband reminded me that when I walked on the property in the back I said "I could see a wedding here." (And truly in my mind I could see a white tent, lights and music and candles, plenty of candles.)
In just 24 days my vision will become a reality. (God willing)
In 20 days the Tent will be erected in the back of our property.
So I decided to do a before post. I promise to do a posting of each stage. So in twenty days I will be posting about the set up and details.
My basement looks like a store filled with treasures.
Since we are doing alot of the work ourselves we have gathered all our best china, glasses, candelabras, candlesticks, you name it. The Mother of the groom, myself and my sweet friend and designer Susan have shared all their treasures with us for the day. Even my dear friend Mary Carol Garrity has lended a hand giving Tim and Liddy a wonderful gift of her wreath that she actually used for her daughter's wedding. (See her book "Stylish Weddings")
How lucky am I to have such wonderful ladies in my life. Take a look at our inventory.
Milk glass and crystal, silverware and china have all been gathered to be polished and made to sparkle for the big day. Some to hold food and some to hold flowers.
Can you see the bar set up in the patio? Lights on the pergola and hordevours being served?
We finally removed the gravel left from the building of the barn a few years ago. The sod is being watered twice a day. My fingers are crossed.
My son's new furniture is being stored in here for his apartment. Can you just see the arbor built with lights from the beams?
This Amish built farmhouse table that was built just for me is waiting to hold flowers and candles and be placed by the very spot where vows will be exchanged. Can you see it draped in a flowy white fabric?
And this sweet old picnic table given to me by my sweet neighbor and friend Belinda and her husband Mike. It was made by Mike's father. One day as they were cleaning out their barn I saw it and fell in love. When I asked them what plans they had for it they told me they didn't really have a need for it and so when I told them I admired it from afar and would love to buy it from them they told me I could have it. I love this table. It has seen many games played on it, has seen many parties and many wonderful occasions. Now it will see a wedding. Can you see it happily holding a lovely lantern and a few pumpkins and maybe some happy mums?
The light is diminishing and I waited too long to take the photos but I wanted to post about my trim and doors and their simple facelift just by painting them the perfect color.
With 28 days left for the wedding we are doing more restoration and renovations to the house than we have done the entire time we have lived in it. The past few weeks we have put in molding, painted, caulked, removed outside gravel, planted sod and changed the kitchen counter, sink and faucet.
(Hey I should have a wedding every year!)
The latest was to change all the doors and trim in the upstairs to match. Our doors were heavy painted in dark walnut with tons of layers of polyurethane. I spent an entire weekend trying to select the right color. I can now say I have.
The color is Edgecomb Gray by Benjamin Moore. It is my new favorite. I paired it with my walls, Benjamin Moore Simply white and it was love at first sight. Here are a few moore photos.
I loved how the trim looked so much that I decided not to put up curtains. I swapped my
Target Shabby Chic Baloon Shades from my guest room for the curtains I had in my bedroom.
The result was just what I wanted.
The double doors where painted in it and I think the contrast is beautiful. Although it's hard to capture the colors exactly on camera, I am very pleased.
Hard to believe that family weekend at UT had arrived.
I am happy to report that my son is settled, happy and feels like he's finding his way and making new friends. As we pulled up to the dorm and waited to see my youngest, this was the first glimpse I got.
It's blurry because I was holding my camera phone to try to snap a quick pic.
As I watched my son who is now six feet come down the stairs and walk towards the car I thought of a time when I knew where he was at all times, was the center of his universe and made him laugh and kept his attention like no one else. Now before me stood a young man embracing his independence and new stage in his life. (Okay not gonna get sad now.)
Sela Ward, whom I love wrote a poigniant book about growing up in the south called Homesick.
It is one of my favorites and I have read it twice because of my fixation with the south. In it she talks about when she was a cheerleader for the University of Alabama. She refers to being in the Bear Bryant Stadium for a game like going to church because of the magnitude of the fans fixation and following and how the entire state in some way worshipped the team, the place and the sport of football.
I remember feeling disconnected because I didn't go away to college or belonged to a great university. I went to a city college and commuted daily and honestly never had an emotional tie to the school.
Sela in the middle.
(Here is an excerpt from her book)
"I WAS A CHEERLEADER at The University of Alabama in the 1970s and my memories are so rich from this chapter of my life. I can still smell the freshly cut grass of the practice field which we shared with the Million Dollar Band and feel the adrenaline rush that shot through my body as the band played and we practiced the double stunts that we were known for. And with coach Paul "Bear" Bryant at the helm, you felt as if you were participating in something larger than life. Tens of thousands of fans in a sea of red and white would weave their way into the stadium. In those days everyone got dressed up - the guys wore a coat and tie and the gals often wore dresses. Barna football was as serious as religion, and to be a cheerleader, down on the field, smack dab in the middle of it all, was a privilege of the highest order!"
Well this weekend I experienced first hand exactly what Sela was writing about. Although I was not a student or alumni I am a parent of a student and witnessed this weekend something truly magnificent. Here is a glimpse of what it's like to be a "Tennessee VOL"
(Except for the first three photos the rest are from my iphone because we are not allowed to bring cameras into the stadium.)
So this is Butch Jones, he is not a rockstar although he very well could be with the amount of fans he has. He is the coach of the Tennessee Volunteers.
Before the game what feels like the entire nation lines up along the pavements around the Neyland Stadium listening to The Pride of the Southland Band as they play "Rocky Top" the unofficial State and school Anthem and various other marching band music. If you are a fan of Peyton Manning you are probably familiar with his traditional warm up dance to Rocky Top before each game because he was the most famous VOL.
The cheerleaders lead the crowd in chants as the people line up for what seems like a mile long mob all sporting their orange gear from jerseys, to hats to painted orange and white checkered toenails.
Below as the team arrives and make their way down the path the sound of cheers are almost defeaning as the band plays to greet their arrival.
(Below are my photos)
Below you can see a group of the marching band.
Below if you can squint and look down towards the bridge of the university the people are lined up on it and below going down until the eye can hardly see.
Below The entire Band in the traditional T formation. On the stadium you can read Petyon Mannings name on the black border below the seating.
Here is the stadium in all it's glory. The sun glistening above allowing the orange to shine like nothing I've ever seen before.
Above a shot of one of the student sections where my son stood down in front of us watching the game with some of the members of his flag football team.
Here I am above hugging my soon to be Daughter-in-law as we stood before the team processed down the hill. And below the only other photo I was able to steel with my phone of my son under the Neyland Stadium sign.
I understand Sela's heartfelt words about her home, her university and her experiences at Bama in a deeper level now that I have experienced what it's like to be part of something. My son, PA born has begun his journey and his lifelong tie, connection to Tennessee and to the university. The friends he will make and experiences he has will shape and mold who he will be for the rest of his life.
I can see how anyone can be captivated by such an experience and a way of life like Sela referred to it in her book. I am so happy for him and feel fortunate to have been present in the sea of orange and all it's glory.
42 days is all I have left before the wedding and don't you know we decided to do some of the work on the interior now!
This is how it started. Our home is a sweet old farmhouse that has a lot of wonderful details that are part of the original house. We still have some of the original flagtone flooring in our foyer and our steps have not been touched. But they had been covered with a wall to wall rug for years. At some point in the middle of the summer I said to my husband, wouldn't it be nice if we could take the rug off the stairs and expose the hard wood?
Well after a few minutes of sitting in silence as we both stared into the blank canvas of possibilities in our minds we both rushed to the stairs and while my husband pried a piece of the carpet up, I was giddy with excitement as I could see the wood peeking form beneath.
Cut to my husband, my two sons and I hours later on our hands and knees with bloody fingers and stiff joints glued to pliers as we pulled the million of stapels from the floor.
This was our end result.
The stairs were damaged in some spots by the staples but still pretty to look at. The wood beneath each step was in desperate need of new spackle and painting.
So we decided to repair them.
Now during the time of consulting our painter and having several discussions with my husband about the upstairs landing now needing moldings that were missing because of the rug we began talking about our doors. The house has these old doors that were stained and polyurethaned years ago. There is one below in our little foyer.
Now from far they look great but if you were standing in front of them believe me you would see how the polyurethane is peeling everywhere and the color has chipped over time and the stain is just too dark. That's when we talked about stripping the doors and repainting them without stain or polyurethane. I hate polyurathane. But then we were faced with the moldings along the floor and frames of the door. Well lets just say the list continued to grow until finally we came up with this.
9 doors stripped and repainted
2 linen closet doors
5 closet doors
1 pair of french doors
window sills throughout the house
moldings along the floors of the family room mudroom, foyer and bedrooms and upstairs landings.
Oh and almost forgot . . . refinish the stairs. The stairs was what started this entire project. I know I think I'm a glutten for punishment.
So I have been searching for the right color. My dear friend Catherine has been helping me match a color she had that went well with her white walls. Will post when the project is complete. The painter said he's looking at possibly in the next two weeks. I can't wait to see my old doors looking new again.
Here I am today, on the beach in this beautiful sun, being still. I read a bit and just stared out at the glorious ocean and sand. I am here. This is where I am. I have no small children to care for like the women I see all around me running after their sand filled two feet tall little versions of themselves with their buckets and shovels in hand. I am not thinking about traveling or college or what I might be, those days have passed. I'm just here. So I am holding on to this moment in my life. This moment of stillness. Appreciating and being thankful that my youngest is acclimating to his new environment, that my oldest is about to marry and that my life is radically changing.
But in the meantime, I am going to sit with that awhile.
I think there is a numbness you feel when the tidalwaves of tears have settled and you somehow develop a panoramic view of your life.
I am thankful. I wanted to document this day, this moment, so that I can come back to it when things get crazy again. A week at the beach is just the right medicine, just the right time before everything changes.
So that once I'm home I will be able to hold on to that as I begin my lists, and countdowns and preparations. I am focusing on the happiness to come. My son's visits home, my homestead transformed for a wedding and all the fun in between. (And don't worry, I am prepared to document every moment for my wedding posts.)
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